Any new task begins with a First Big Step and writing an eulogy is no different from writing your first resume. Well done! You have already started the first step. You have decided to upskill! Many people when asked, or find themselves "expected" to write an eulogy, will stick with "No I couldn't" without a second thought. It may be that after you have understood what an eulogy is and have followed the guide to writing an eulogy below, you will give the same answer. The difference is you will have given the request the respect it deserves.
There are 3 reasons why writing an eulogy is hard. Firstly, its highly emotional & secondly public speaking is exposing & makes the speaker feel vulnerable. Then there is the simple fact that until we are asked to write an eulogy we have never thought about it before! At school we were taught how to write letters, book reviews, short stories & job resumes. Writing an eulogy was definitely not part of the schools curriculum!
When I read the family histories of other researchers there is one thing I miss more than any other. Letters! A "Love Letter For Jimmy" was written for my brother by those who cared for him in his final days. It is the only letter from the past I have. I can not change the past but I can look to the future and leave my words. A eulogy for mother is a letter I wrote about the past. It is a letter I leave behind for the future.
When someone you love dies you cope with grief, loss and a sadness so deep you feel that you are drowning. Then time passes and your thoughts turn outwards. In my case it was the not knowing what happened in those last moments. You pray that love overcame fear.